Why do empaths dissociate?

and.. well what in the world even IS dissociation?

Lets set the scene.

Imagine you are going to a party.

You're kind of excited because you are seeing people you haven't in awhile, you're getting out of the house... YAY!

But you get there.

And its overwhelming to you.

its too loud, and there are too many people, you start to feel lonely in a big crowded room, wondering whats wrong with you.. and the energy just feels off.

You realize you have a couple more hours to fake it till you make it so you smile, get along with people, and rush out of there as soon as you can.

You feel exhausted when you get into the car, numb, foggy, and just out of it.

Someone may be in the car with you trying to talk to you, and you just bite their head off, because you just cant deal.

This is called dissociation.

Can I share with you what happened there?

In you childhood you experienced chaos.

It doesn't have to be my chaos. It was your chaos. Don't justify it, it just was what it was.

Your child self likely didn't have the tools emotionally (because most of us didn't) to handle the chaos.

And honestly, trauma isn't what society is telling you.

Trauma is just your body experiencing stress that it doesn't know what to do with.

And do you want to know what most of the empath's trauma is?

Our spiritual wound?

We learned early on to deny our energetic & emotional needs to meet the needs of others...

And many of us are playing out that same role play day after day after day.

We came into the world HIGHLY intuitive.

Like highly highly highly intuitive.

We thought at times we could read people's minds, but that scared us because our moms told us that fortune tellers were evil (no? just me? haha).

And we were highly sensitive beings.

We may have been told we were too emotional.

Little did our parents know.. the bodies ONLY way to release energy...thats in motion.. which is called EMOTION by the way... is to cry, yell, scream, complain.. when we are young.

So if we cant do that...

and we are picking up on ALL of the emotion & energy surrounding us...

What do you think we did with that energy?

Well.. you already know that it was too much to bear.

So you learned to dissociate.

You stored the energy in your bodies, ignoring your natural responses to your energy & motion and trying to get away from sensing and picking up on all the emotion around you... you went outside of your body.

You began to dissociate.

To survive.

But love, you know that I am here to help you move from survival to thriving... and I KNOW the wayyyyy.

Because I was there.

Because I did it too.

So let's talk about how to work through this.

In a practical sense there are a few things you can do to help your brain and your emotional body to reprogram from a constant state of dissociation.

1. Grounding

Grounding is rooting down our root chakra which is highly deficient. This is the chakra that holds the right to exist as we are, the right to have.

You deserve to exist.

With all of your beautiful light and energy and sensing and seeking and glory.

As you ground your BODY, you will also begin to ground your energy from not only being in your upper chakras (which leads to obsession with thinking, over analyzing, anxiety, spiritualization of everything... ask me how I know hahah)

2. Release your emotions

-This is something I cover extensively in my be healed membership but in case you aren't in there.. releasing your emotions is your only way out of this.

Like you are going to have to feel.

And feel it all.

And release it UP AND OUT OF YOUR MOUTH.

without judgment.

So ANY TIME you feel emotions (and spoiler alert, anger, anxiety, and irritability are typically coverup emotions for your wounded inner child feeling MUCH deeper things)... 

close your eyes.

imagine where the energy is stuck (tension in body, sickness, illness etc), and breath it up and out of your mouth until you feel it pass. don't be surprised if they all want to escape. Your body desperately wants to be free of everyone else's emotions you've been holding onto all these years. Make space. Don't judge. RELEASE.

3. Form energetic boundaries

By getting in touch with your own higher self energy you will be able to differentiate what is YOUR energy... and what is the energy that you picked up from someone else. You will be able to hold space for yourself without feeling like you need to ENMESH with those around you.

This takes deeper work FOR SURE, but I highly suggest doing the work to get there... because IMAGINE THE DAY where you can be in a room of people... letting them have all of their emotions, and leave totally unscathed. Grounded in whats yours, not needing to take on the problems of the world (or on facebook) and content and that you truly embody the peace that you crave?

Oh babe... its worth it.

So thats dissociation in a nutshell & how to begin to heal.

Happy coming back into your body lovely!